Network Marking: The Ken and Barbie Bomb
We’ve all been around the prototypical fashion dolls Ken and Barbie long enough to consider them attractive. But did you know that many people in our industry never once date or marry a person that looks like either one of them? That is, until monthly income reaches a certain level and the attractive, younger people start appearing in one’s organization. In fact, not only do they appear, but they’re very interested in the brilliance and support of their Upline.
In all the years I’ve been a professional Networker, this is one subject that only I have written about. Most men and women refuse to acknowledge this land mine because they prefer to believe that when younger, beautiful members of the opposite sex start taking an interest in them, it’s all because of their animal magnetism and brilliant wit. This may come as a shock to you, but sometimes beautiful people target others for their money, not their beer guts. I know that’s hard to believe.
Over the years I’ve seen countless marriages unravel right after Networkers hit the big checks. Why? Trophy spouses have become one of the rights and entitlements at all the rich and famous. From celebrities and corporate titans to actors, athletes, and mega-rich company owners, many seem to end up with very young attractive partners. That’s all just a part of our culture.
We’ve all been taught that opposites attract. The problem is opposites also repel. So I’ve chosen to expose this land mine even though nobody seems to want to discuss it. And I suggest that you pay attention because whenever a person winds up earning big monthly checks, they become the trophy.
It’s not the other way around. Most men and women don’t recognize the Ken and
Barbie Bomb because they simply don’t want to accept the fact that beautiful people twenty years younger may be more interested in cash, toys and power than intelligence, wrinkles and hair loss. And it works both ways! I’ve seen some very wealthy women end up with trophy guys, only to discover that they’ve taken a room at Hotel California where you can “check out anytime you like, but you can never leave.”
So here are a few words to the wise. You aren’t getting more attractive as you age, nor are you becoming more compatible with people born twenty years after you. They tend to enjoy different music, activities, movies and sports.
Here’s a simple strategic question that will help you avoid the network marketing Ken and Barbie Bomb. Think back to when you were twenty years old. How often did you try to seduce forty year olds? Or, when was the last time you heard about a thirty year old woman asking the parents of a third grade boy for his hand in marriage? People who are separated by as few as twenty years do not generally attract each other.
And here’s another rational question. When someone who looks like a professional model begins to take an interest in you, ask yourself how many of those gods and goddesses were interested in you before your check hit $30,000 a month.
Of course it would be disingenuous of me to discount the many enduring relationships between couples who refused to worry about differences in age and appearance. Anyone who has seen photographs of Anna Nichole Smith and her billionaire husband who died prematurely before reaching 100 years of age, cannot possibly fail to recognize the depth of their enduring love cut horribly short by unexpected circumstances. Or how about the kindness and devotions which caused Paul McCartney’s young blonde bride to walk with merely a few million dollars after a beautiful 5-year love-filled marriage when there was so much more cash to be harvested. What love!
But just in case you do question the sudden interest in you after the checks increase and would like to remain objective about what’s really going on, we have a simple test to share with you. It’s called the test of favorites and it usually indicates possible differences. Simply ask your Ken or Barbie to tell you their favorite music, meal and movie. If her favorite musician is Snoop Dog and yours is Tony Bennett or your favorite meal is goose liver pate and hers is Chicken McNuggets or your favorite movie is Breakfast at Tiffany’s and his is Trailer Park Boys…let’s just say the odds of the two of you celebrating a golden wedding anniversary are about the same as the Dali Lama marrying Paris Hilton. On the other hand, if you both love all the same stuff, hey, “Viva Las Vegas!”